"Ever has it been," wrote Kahlil Gibran, "that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation."
"A heart broken from love lost rates among the most stressful life events a person can experience," says David Buss, Ph.D., the author of The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating. "It's exceeded in psychological pain only by horrific events, such as the loss of a child."
As mysterious as love may be, the agony of losing the one you love to another is an even more baffling experience, one that will leave you feeling unworthy and expendable.
The heart wrenching, alone feeling of knowing that the one that was so special to you has dumped you for someone else is a trauma to brain and body that can numb you for a long time and make you feel you’d never again be anything but damaged goods.
You hope it’d never happen to you, but it did. If you are the one who has been dumped for someone else, there is nothing you can do but remove yourself from the equation with dignity, and brace for impact.
It will hit you hard and it will hurt like hell at times, but bear in mind, had he/she really been into you, he/she could have not possibly been into someone else. Accept it and give yourself time to grieve, It’s no use trying to get back together, it will only crush your self esteem even more and extend the grieving process.
Trust it - humans are fundamentally built to love, biological anthropologist and amore-expert Helen Fisher says - when you come out on the other side of this experience you’ll be wiser and stronger and able to love again.
Maybe nothing will chase all traces of your lost love from your heart, but eventually with a new love you will not mind.